Let me start by saying that I am sorry for taking yet another break. I thought this blogging would be fun and easy. I was wrong. For a short time, this made it feel like I had to relive all of the bad moments. Just like having to tell a sad story twice. With all of that said I felt for my mental health it would be best if I took some time away from TheBeckBoys.com. So that is what I did. I haven’t logged in since the last post in January but today I think I am ready to catch everyone up. Get ready there have been a lot.
We decided to make the switch to a local Mexican egg donor and do what is called a shared egg program. This all means that from the total number of eggs retrieved we would split them between Brandon and me. I would fertilize half and he would fertilize half. We would gen both have genetic connections with one child. This was something that was very important to us. We selected our egg donor in March and started the stimulation process. We started with 18 eggs and after day 6 we ended with Brandon having 3 and myself having 3. Biopsies of these were taken and sent to Mexico City for PGS testing. This process takes about one month. We received our results back on April 11th and we both have two viable embryos each. Brandon had two female embryos and I had one female and one male. Now another wait begins. We decided we wanted to try to have “twins” and I use quotation marks around twins because we understand the risks to the surrogate mother for twins and so do our doctor and agency so they search for two surrogate mothers and they transfer one embryo to each.
We had to wait about two and a half months for the agency and clinic to have two surrogates ready around the same time. We had the first transfer on June 27th and the second transfer on July 1st. This would mean that we would have two pregnancy tests. One on July 7th and one on July 11th. After talking a lot about this we decided to ask our medical coordinator to hold the test results from the first test and send both together. We decided this because since we have already had one failed transfer and we know what those emotions feel like I couldn’t handle bad news and then good news 4 days apart or even bad news and bad news. So now we wait again. Four. More. Days!
